Have a Bright day!!!
Many of my clients complain about jealous co-workers, unhappy in-laws, manipulative relatives and label them all as ‘Negative people’ around them who influence their life greatly. The common question being - How do you handle negativity?
Various methods are mentioned in spiritual books and online articles. However, the best option I feel is to let in positivity in abundance. Just as darkness is understood as absence of light, Negativity is basically reduced or negligible positivity. The moment you increase the positive thoughts, negativity is bound to lose hold. No doubt, in everyday life, there are a hundred reasons to feel dejected, rejected and nervous. But, hold your thoughts that very moment and try to focus on the thousand reasons to smile – the first rain, the best gift, the first crush, the smaller achievements, the love of your life, the care of parents, the lovely friends.. the list is really endless. This reflection, gives one enough energy and strength to fight the so called obstacles in life.
Negativity does not just come in the form of negative thoughts; it also comes along with negative people. There are many people who may have taken advantage of us, hurt us, and demeaned us in some point of life. Forgiving them is not impossible but very difficult. But knowing that “every bully is either a victim or a coward” will help you see through them and stand up for yourself. Throughout our day, we meet various people, on our way to work, while we are out for lunch, when we are travelling. Some of them are uniquely negative and are extremely easy to identify. They are upset, constantly crib about unending inadequacies in their lives – in all completely unhappy living beings. It is ok to be upset, unhappy and have negative thoughts. The problem arises if we let these thoughts rule our mind and day and spread it around us. The more we stay in the company of such thoughts or such people, it starts seeping in our every breath and acts like poison. Life is too short to waste in repenting over bad decisions, unhappy circumstances. Do yourself a favour. End these toxic thoughts and delete the noxious people from your life. They are the extra weights in your sack when you are on a very exciting trekking trip of life.
Choose your thoughts and companions wisely. Be with people who inspire you, motivate you, make you smile, stand with you silently but rock solid through your misery. Replace negative thoughts with happy ones. Read a good story every night, hum a song every morning, have a pet, play with kids, dance in the rain….
Be grateful!!
